I have 97 hours under my belt after this semester. That means only 30 more to go! I am going to be the first to graduate out of all of my friends. Just goes to show if you just keep going you'll get there. I feel awesome.

My roommate and I have the weirdest/worst relationship. When I have time off I hang out in the living room, watch some television, do some cooking and eat in the living room, you know relax. My roommate on the other hand does not seem to have any free-time whatsoever. When she comes home she scurries into her room and shuts the door. When she gets hungry, she'll start cooking something in the kitchen go to her room then come back when it's finished then eat in her room. She only watches t.v. in her room. Not only that but she ignores and avoids me. This has been going on for about 6 weeks. So it's like I have a rare creature living in my apartment that makes a mess in the kitchen, blasts music so loud that her speakers can't handle it, but is never seen. The sad part is we used to be friends, and I don't know why she started acting this way I have no idea what I could of done to strike fear into the (cold) heart of a 21 year old english major. Yes that's right, a language major, who doesn't know how to confront me, or even allow me to confront her.

Last night something happened that got my adrenaline going. Here is the story from the start:
I had a friend over that I hadn't seen in a long time who has met my roommate. He came over and she was getting ready to go somewhere (as usual) because I guess she really likes to go out (I like to stay in) almost every night. So he showed up and he saw her going back and forth between her bathroom and her bedroom as she commonly does to get ready to go out.
Rex- Hey Jaclyn
Jaclyn- Hi Reeex
Rex- How are you...
*door shut* -no response
Now, that behavior is not suitable for guests, and I know she is cool with Rex. So why wouldn't she dignify him with a decent greeting? I might expect this behavior from a child but there is no way someone who writes for a newspaper would act this way. Her business is communication, that's what blows my mind the most.
So anyway she eventually finishes getting ready and leaves. I then have to explain to my friend that for some unknown reason we aren't speaking, and he can't understand it either.
Fast Forward, It's about 1 AM and Rex has just left so I get on the phone with my boyfriend and start cleaning my "toys" (computer, backpack, ect.) out of the living rooms and put them back in my room. Her and this man she hangs out with (that I have never met) come to the apartment. They let themselves in and do normal things. I was on the phone so I wasn't really interested. I had made some food for myself earlier in the kitchen and I was going to store it and clean up the pans I had dirtied. I get to the kitchen and she had taken one of my pans that had food in it and put it in the sink. It wasn't that big of a deal (it still had the lid on it) I just took it out and placed the food in a storage container in the refrigerator. Maybe she was intimidated because I wasn't scurrying away when people showed up, or didn't give them "their space" I was going to finish what I was doing. I was not going to avoid someone in the place where I live.

So as I am on the phone telling my boyfriend what activities had ensued that evening with my friend and scooping mac and cheese into a storage container when I hear something behind me. It's Jaclyn with her friend. She tells him to look at a pan, look at how not clean it is and how that it was gross. So I turn around because I know what pan she is talking about.

Earlier that day I had burnt some eggs... dumb I know, and I had given the pan a quick wash instantly after I got the eggs off so it would be easier to clean up. I don't like to let those things stick because it is more work if you do. So the pan wasn't clean but I had washed it, I was going to wash it again with the rest of the dishes but I guess she thought I would probably leave it like that. She had the guts to say something right behind my back, where I could hear her but she couldn't talk to me face to face.

So I was in the middle of my conversation on the phone when I heard her voice and I turned around and as soon as I did she was scurrying back into her room loudly I say, "Jaclyn, umm hey Jaclyn." *door shuts* and then I said somethings like if you want to talk to me I'm right here, and I explain that I was going to wash that pan anyway but there was no response so I just talked on the phone some more and finished my duties in the kitchen. But at that moment I was furious. I like to be the calm logical person so perusing her by knocking on her door or yelling at her through a doorway didn't sound like a good option.

It was almost satisfying proof that I really was being normal and not giving into this fucked up situation. It's not me, it has to be her. By her doing what she just did it told me what kind of person she really is. She can't talk to me and even when she had support (her man) she can only say shit and not allow me a response. I guess she at least had the guts to finally complain about something or even speak in my almighty presence. ha! But, I mean how dare she say that I had a dirty dish. She's the queen of dirty dishes, in fact I cleaned her pans last weekend when she left them and was gone for 3 days. It's not even that big of a deal to me. If she complains about MY cleanliness that is, because I do keep the kitchen clean after daily use.

But I understand her bitching came from her thinking that I had washed the pan and thought it was clean. That was not the case and she didn't allow me the opportunity to tell her the real situation. I try to see where people are coming from when they act out. I feel like I am a very understanding person. I don't understand how two adults can act this way, yes myself included. Am I really that scary. I really don't know what to do next. I mean really I could do whatever I wanted and she wouldn't EVER say ANYTHING to me. EVER! I refuse to act like a child so being a decent person is the only thing I want to do. I am moving out in less than a month so she won't have to try so hard to avoid me anymore. BAH. I wish she would just tell me what her problem with me is and get passed it. I guess I should ask her, but it's hard since I hardly see her. When I do she's going somewhere because she's busy... very very busy.

What would you do if you were in this situation? What am I doing wrong!
Or have you experienced any problems like this?

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